I like the idea of sex being an extension of a friendship or an impulsive response to chemistry. As long as everyone’s treating one another with respect & affection, it can be great. I think people get too hung up on Hollywood ideals of romance. it’s not that I am not a romantic person, I am. I have a very romantic & passionate relationship with my husband, but it’s also real, not perfect, sometimes messy, zany & always full of joy. but i am fine & happy with just moving from a cafe or a pub to the bedroom with a friend if the chemistry is there.
i also believe that sex can be for all kinds of reasons: love, just plain affection, wild lust, comfort & companionship. love & sex are treated as commodities to hold on to, to save for marriage etc. i prefer being open to giving & receiving love, lust, friendship & affection to all who are willing to give it in return.
I prefer consensual non monogamy to other forms of non monogamy, but i’m not here to judge anyone’s relationship. I don’t have a list of fetishes or sexual activities I need to cross off. I’m fairly vanilla with newbies. I have been known to tumble quickly into bed if the chemistry’s there, but I generally need to enjoy the person’s company first. I prefer well-rounded people who have a variety of interests, rather than just being focused on sex alone.
if we’re having a good time together, i don’t see why we can’t just continue that good time in a more intimate setting. there are so many men i would dearly love to kiss…you’re probably one of them…